Writing a sympathy card isn’t easy, because grief and sadness 😢 are some of the toughest emotions to put into words. Plus, comforting words can often feel lost on those who are grieving. Regardless of how difficult you find writing a sympathy card, the recipient is having an even harder time, so it’s important to reach out to let them know they’re not alone. 🤗
Words can’t take away the pain, grief and sorrow of losing a loved one, but they can certainly show support during a time of need. Keep in mind, there’s no perfect recipe for a sympathy greeting, so write from the 💛. If the words aren’t coming, and everything you write sounds wrong, just keep it short, sweet, and to the point. The act of sending a sympathy card is worth more than the words inside of it.
- Thinking of you and wishing you peace and comfort as you remember X.
- Holding you close in my thoughts, and hope that you are doing okay.
- I was incredibly saddened to hear that X passed away. My thoughts are with you and your family during this time.
- Hope you feel surrounded by so much love and these words can act as a comforting hug.
- Sharing in your sadness and grief as you remember X. We will miss them dearly.
If you knew the person who passed, but not who you are writing the card to, it’s best to mention how you knew the deceased — even better if you add in a little story or memory. 💭
- X was an amazing person that lived an extraordinary life. I feel blessed knowing I was able to walk part of their journey with them.
- Celebrating the life of a good man/woman and mourning their passing alongside you.
- Add a personal story about the deceased — one the recipient may not have known about.
- X touched so many lives in a positive way. I’m grateful I had a chance to know them.
Offers to help
- I know nothing I can say will take the pain away, I simply want you to know you’re not alone. If you need a shoulder to cry on, or someone to reminisce with, I’m here for you.
- You’re going through a lot at the moment, so if you need someone to walk the dog, do your shopping, or bring over a meal, I’m just a phone call away.
- When death occurs, it leaves behind an emptiness that can only be filled by the love of others. Please reach out if there’s anything we can do to help.
For sudden losses
- We were shocked and saddened to hear about the passing of X. We can’t imagine what you are going through, Our hearts go out to all of you.
- It’s going to take time to get over the shock of this loss, but you don’t have to do it alone. We’ll be with you every step of the way.
If you’re sending a card months after
It’s a nice gesture to send a sympathy card long after the funeral has taken place. Grief doesn’t disappear just because time has passed. Reach out to let them know you’re still thinking of them.
- They say time heals all wounds, but they don’t say how much time. Keeping you in my thoughts.
- This Christmas will look much different than years past without X. Just know that we’re all here for you and thinking of you during the holidays. If you don’t want to be alone, you’re welcome to spend Christmas with us.
- Remembering X on their birthday. They were a generous and kind-hearted person and deserve to be celebrated.
- Hard to believe it’s been a year since we said good-bye to X. Thinking of you today and every day, and will toast to the memory of X.
Phrases to avoid using…
Even if you mean well, there are certain phrases that don’t really provide any comfort during this sensitive time. If you’re not sure if something will help, best stay clear!
- It’s for the best
- I understand how you’re feeling
- They lived a full life
- Everything happens for a reason
- They are in a better place now
- You’ll see them again someday
- It will get easier in time
- It could be worse
Death is a sensitive topic. When friends and family pass away, it can change your perspective on life. At Bequest, we want to help take all of the guesswork out of it and help you plan for the future. Write your will online or sign up for life insurance today. No matter what life throws at you, it’s helpful to be prepared. 💛