As humans, we all go through times of struggle and dips in our mental wellbeing, so we know the feeling. It’s easy to isolate yourself and cut yourself off from friends and family, so let’s be there when the ones closest to us aren’t feeling the best. This article will show you a few different ways you can help a loved one who is suffering from low mental wellbeing.
Whilst sometimes it can seem obvious that a loved one’s mental wellbeing is suffering, there are also times when there are no signs. Sometimes, you don’t have to know what’s wrong but rather be by their side to show support 👭.
How can I help?
There are many different ways you can show your support and help a loved one in times of need.
When you find out a loved one is experiencing poor mental wellbeing, it’s important to take a minute and listen 👂 before you try to start fixing everything 🔧. As you probably already know, having someone to talk to can make your loved one feel relieved and more comfortable around you. Simply spending time listening to how someone feels without being distracted can make a world of difference for them. 🌎 Repeating what your loved one has said back to them can also let them know that you understand what they are saying.
Let them know that their feelings are valid
By listening to your loved one and paying attention to what they are saying, you can validate their feelings and let them know that they are important. To help validate your loved one’s feelings, staying involved with the conversation and asking clarifying questions such as “how does that make you feel” or “what do you think about that” is important. You can also help validate their feelings by empathising with them, you could say that their reactions and feelings are totally normal and let them know that they have every right to feel the way that they do.
Helping someone rationalise their thoughts and feelings is completely different to judging them. You probably aren’t a trained counsellor either ⚕️, so it might be best not to try and diagnose or second guess your loved one’s feelings, this could lead to them not feeling validated and could cause more worry on their behalf.
Ask how you can help
Asking how you can help shows that you care about your loved one’s feelings. It also helps take out some of the guesswork, what you think might be helpful, might be the complete opposite of what they are in need of. By asking this simple question, they will start thinking about the help that they need. Remember, you can’t force help upon someone, if you’ve offered your help and they don’t feel ready, it’s best to simply let them know that you’re there for them when and if they want it.
Show a kind gesture
Small gestures go a long way with loved ones. Sending flowers 💐, a quick card or call to say you’re thinking about them 📞, making them a nice meal 🍝 or getting their favourite chocolate 🍫, the list is endless. By letting your loved one know that you’re thinking about them, they might feel a little less alone and more appreciated. This nurturing act will make someone’s day and could even mean they open up to you about how they are feeling. Kindness always wins. 🤗
Whilst supporting a loved one who is struggling with their mental wellbeing is important and an amazing thing to do, it’s important that we look after our own needs too. Don’t forget to be kind to yourself and practise self-care to keep your mental wellbeing in check.
Sharing is caring
Feeling worried about friends and family members when their mental wellbeing is low is completely normal. You can help by listening to them talk about their feelings, validating and offering a helping hand. 🤝 It’s important to check up on your loved ones and see if you can help take any of the weight off their shoulders. 💛
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