The death of a loved one is one of the hardest things we have to deal with as humans and it’s important to remember that grief is dealt with differently by everyone. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and you shouldn’t feel guilty about how you choose to deal with it.
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5 things to remember when dealing with grief. 💛
Your feelings will change
They won't necessarily leave or never come back, but they will change and morph. Remembering that the feelings you’re feeling right now will not be there forever may help. You may experience grief for a while (or forever!), but it will change. A way that you can instil this thought in your mind is by thinking back to previous hard times that you thought you’d never get out of. This will help prove to yourself that what you’re experiencing won’t last forever, you’ve been through hard times before so you can do it again. No matter what that looks like for you! 💪
Be gentle with yourself
As we’ve already said, there isn’t a set way that a person should grieve, you don’t have to put pressure on yourself to feel a certain way. An example of this could be not crying, just because you don’t cry, it doesn’t mean you aren’t sad. There are many other human responses to feelings of sadness and there’s no need to put pressure on yourself to show it in a certain way. Grief is a very personal process, and it comes in different forms for everyone.
It’s also important to not put yourself in uncomfortable situations. When you’re going through a lot, you should prioritise how you feel and ensure that you don’t pressure yourself into anything. It’s okay to sit with how you’re feeling and not force yourself to move on right away.
Grief isn’t linear
It’s completely normal to have ups and downs when dealing with grief. Try not to beat yourself up when you think you’re feeling better and are then hit with a wave of emotions. 🌊 A great way to cope with this is to simply experience the emotions, know that they are temporary and that they are happening for a reason. It’s vital that you don’t try ignoring these emotions and any painful feelings in hope that they will go away faster as this isn’t true. It’s necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it rather than suppressing it.
Your feelings are valid and normal
There are various feelings that come with grief such as shock, guilt, sadness, anger and even fear. What’s important to remember when grieving is that everything you feel is valid, whatever you’re feeling makes sense to you and your situation. When it comes to getting advice from others, it’s easy to try and conform to what they tell you to feel or do, but you have to accept the way you’re feeling and allow yourself to feel these emotions. Everyone’s experience with the loss of a loved one is different, we’re humans, not robots. 🤖
You’re never alone
One of the most important things to remember when you’re dealing with grief, or any negative emotions for that matter, is that you’re never alone. Friends and family are always a quick phone call away and if you feel like you would benefit from talking to a professional, do not hesitate. There are many different support groups for grief that will help you along the journey and get you to the light at the end of the tunnel. 🥀 Speaking to others or people who are neutral in times like these help you get thoughts and feelings off your chest and may leave you feeling lighter and ready to move on.
Having grief is enough to deal with when a loved one dies.
The last thing you want to think about is where the money is going to come from for your loved one’s funeral and what their last wishes were. That’s why at Bequest, we take care of your wills and life insurance in the easiest way possible, so your loved one’s don’t have to feel overwhelmed when something happens to you.