The term “celebrating” a death anniversary doesn’t necessarily sound right because most of us don’t associate the term death with celebration. When referring to a death anniversary, the focus can be about remembering the life they lived and all the memories you shared together.
Everyone has an idea for how they’d like to spend the day — some people choose to ignore it because it’s too painful, while others love the opportunity to get together with family and friends to remember their loved one.
On the first death anniversary, you may consider taking the day off or making sure you’re not too busy that day. There is no doubt that you’ll experience a lot of different emotions throughout the course of the day and it might be difficult to cope. The first one is considered to be the hardest, so be sure to allow yourself time to grieve. Even if you aren’t working, skip your daily chores, and only get together with people if you feel like it. There is no pressure for you to act as if everything is normal.
There is also no right or wrong way to celebrate a death anniversary — what’s important is that you do what you feel is best. If you’re having difficulty coming up with ways to commemorate this occasion, consider the following ideas. 💛
Ways to celebrate a death anniversary
Visit their final resting place
It’s quite common for loved ones to go visit the deceased’s final resting place on the anniversary of their death. Some choose to bring flowers to lay at the graveside, 🪦 or at the foot of a tree 🌳 to pay their respects. If your loved one chose to be cremated, you might choose to go to where the ashes were scattered and have a picnic or take time to reflect on shared memories.
Write them letter
One of the best ways to release pent up emotions is to express them. If you’re not up to talking about your feelings quite yet, write your loved one a letter. 💌 It doesn’t matter what you say — whether you choose to write about good memories, or about how angry or sad you are that they’re gone. This is a very therapeutic way of dealing with a difficult time.
Buy some flowers in their memory
Flowers can manage to brighten up even the darkest of days, which is why they are a great way to celebrate a death anniversary. 💐 You don’t need to take them to the graveside or final resting place of your loved ones — these can be just for you. As a tribute to them, you can choose their favourite flower, or find a bouquet that brings a smile to your face.
Look through old photos, or make a photo album
So much of our lives have become digital that many don’t take the time to print out photos anymore. 📷 Celebrate the happy memories shared with your loved one by printing out a few photos or making an entire photo album in their honour.
Hold a memorial service
Having a memorial service doesn’t have to be a large affair, it can simply just be family and friends gathered together to remember the deceased. You can choose how structured or informal you’d like it to be — it’s just nice knowing you aren’t going through it alone. 👪
Go on a vacation
Maybe there was a place your loved one always wanted to go, but never had the chance. ✈️ Especially for those who find the time of year near the death anniversary very tough, going on holiday will allow you some space to get away from the memories that might be holding you back. 🏖
Light a candle
A simple way to pay tribute to your loved one is by lighting a candle, 🕯 which you can do from the comfort of your own home. If you’re religious, you may consider going to a place of worship to light a candle and say a prayer.
Do their favourite activities
Today is the day to celebrate everything that made your loved one who they were. Eat out at their favourite restaurant, 🍴 listen to their favourite music, 🎶 do activities they loved to do. It’s a way to celebrate their life while keeping them close in your heart. 💙
Taking care of your loved ones
A death anniversary is a time for reflection — consider how you felt when your loved one passed away. Was everything well organised, or were you a bit overwhelmed with all the legal aspects of death? At Bequest, we’re trying to change the narrative and get rid of the stigma attached to death. There’s no good reason not to make sure your loved ones are taken care of upon your death. If you haven’t already, sign up for life insurance and write your will with us today. This will helps take some of the financial pressure off your family and clear up confusion around what your final wishes are. 💛