Ways to Cope With a Death Anniversary

No one grieves or copes with a death in the same way and that's more than ok.

The death of a loved one can have a long-lasting effect on you and your family. It can be a mental and emotional dark cloud that can loom over your head for months, sometimes even years. Different people find different ways to cope with such events. While some go over all 5 stages of grief and loss, others find closure relatively sooner or even later.

How you cope, heal, move on or even struggle with a death in your family also depends a lot on the circumstances. No situation is ever the same and no one responds in the same way either. Having the right emotional and financial support (in the form of a good life insurance policy) can often make the process a lot easier. 🙌

Death anniversaries are stark reminders of the loss of a loved one. Without the right closure, it can be challenging to cope with this day. You might want to go about your life like it’s just another day, do something by yourself or organise something that honours the memory of your loved one.

While how you choose to spend the day is completely up to you, here are a few ideas that can help you commemorate the death anniversary of a loved one just the way you want. 🙏

Spend the day with your loved ones 👪

In one of the many beautifully humane moments of the show, Friends character Jack Geller discloses a quirky death wish. He wishes to be buried at sea! 🌅 His rationale behind this decision? He believes it would give his family a reason to get together every year. Get on a boat and visit me. You can make a day out of it, he says. While you might not want to go so far as setting off on a voyage, a simple luncheon with your close family can be an excellent way to spend the way. Being with your loved ones can often give you the emotional strength you need to cope with the loss.

Donate in their name 🎁

You can choose to donate in your loved one’s name to honour their memory. This can either be a charity mentioned in their will or a charity of your choice. Opting to give to a charity related to something your relative loved (kids, animals, environment protection etc.) is a great idea. But how can you find the emotional support you need through this? By spending the day with the people you donate to. Seeing and experiencing the lives you touch through your kindness can be a powerful experience. You can also make a small personal donation by planting a tree or a rose bush in their memory.

Write to them ✍️

What sometimes makes coping with the loss of a loved one so hard is the lack of closure or communication. Writing down the things that you wish to tell them can help lift the emotional weight or anxiety off your chest. You can tell these things to someone close to you (a spouse, child or a parent) or simply visit the loved one’s grave and place the letter there. Visiting their grave and talking to them, while unorthodox, can be very helpful.

Indulge in a religious ritual ⛪

If you are religious, it might be a good idea to indulge in a ritual that honours your loved one. Many churches and other religious communities across the country offer to hold memorial services for you and your family. You can even donate to the church in your loved one’s name after this service. Religious rituals are often closely connected to the idea of fulfilment and eternal peace. Giving your loved one a traditional religious send off can help you find the closure you are looking for.


Dealing with the death of a loved one is never easy. However, your family, community and loved ones can help. Being prepared may help you get through, or even enjoy the death anniversary in the future.

You don’t have to go through this alone, make sure that if you need help or someone to talk to, that you reach out to friends and family. Also, once a payout has been made, we offer counseling services to your loved ones, so they’re not left out in the cold. If you or someone you know needs someone to talk to, please contact us alexa@bequest.com 💛

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FF Bequest Limited, trading as Bequest, is authorised and regulated by the Financial Conduct Authority with firm reference number 923791. You can check our authorisation on the FCA Financial Services Register by visiting the following website: register.fca.org.uk . We are registered in England and Wales, Registered office address: Founders Factory, Northcliffe House, London, United Kingdom, W8 5EH. Company Number 12367897.

Regulated by the Information Commissioner's Office (ICO) [ZA662891]. "Bequest" is trademark protected by FF Bequest Limited (UK00003452648). FF Bequest Limited is registered in England and Wales, No 12367897.

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