Ways to Cope & Things to Do When You Find Out You're Dying
Let’s just put it on the table.
It will happen to everyone, but we don’t always know when. And while it is a natural part of life, most of us hope that it won’t happen anytime soon (especially if you're young!)
Some common emotions are fear, denial, anger, despair, helplessness, and anxiety. However, as I'm sure you know, everyone’s journey will be different. Receiving the news may have sent your world into freefall, or you feel like you’re on a rollercoaster from one day to the next, but that is your journey.
This article is going to give you some things to think about and perhaps some practical ways to cope and prepare if you find out that you are dying.
Firstly, know that you’re not alone. There are so many people who have been through what you’re going through and so many professionals that can help. There may be a combination of people and services that you use and these may vary throughout the weeks or months and that’s ok.
There may be family that you need to tell, as well as close friends. Some might have been with you since the beginning of your journey or it may take a while to tell others, and whatever you choose is your decision. It could be hard, or it could be a relief.
Whatever the situation, make sure you have support. Receiving a terminal diagnosis is difficult and not everyone will respond the same way, let alone the way you hope they do. One suggestion for third-party support would be Marie Curie. They have information and support for all aspects of dying, death, and bereavement.
You are not a burden
Some people may think that they are a burden to their family and friends. However, don’t make the mistake of trying to cope with everything on your own. Beyond concerns with medical support, there will be practical things you need to put in place too. Seek and accept support from carers because that will allow you to spend more quality time with your loved ones.
There will be certain practical plans that you need to put in place and things that you can take care of ahead of time. Being prepared is super important and can help you stay focused on your health.
- Research your illness with help from your GP and healthcare professionals. Information will help you plan effectively for your final days and weeks.
- Discuss an end-of-life care plan with your family and medical team.
- If you haven’t already done so, write a will. If you have a will, make sure it is up to date. You can also focus on the gifting of personal items to specific individuals.
- Plan your funeral arrangements. Doing this together with your family can make it easier for them after you have gone, knowing exactly what you want and why you want it.
Some people create photo albums or special gifts for their children or loved ones, capturing precious moments from times together.
Making practical arrangements is both important and sensible, but remember to enjoy the time you have left with your family and friends. While some people create a bucket list, you should try and prioritise. It’s not always the most expensive gifts or trips that make the best memories. It could be that month-long trip to Africa you’ve been wanting to go on or it could be dinner at that new restaurant in town. Your family and friends just want time with you.
No matter your situation; whether you know someone who’s dying, you are dying yourself, or you just want to be prepared, knowledge is power. That’s where Bequest comes in: life insurance, wills, and family wellbeing all in one place. Taking control of your life and having peace of mind has never been more important, make a decision to get insurance and a will that fits you and your family.
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